“Beneath the surface of the protective parts of trauma survivors there exists an undamaged essence, a Self that is confident, curious and calm. A Self that has been sheltered from destruction by the various protectors that have emerged in their efforts to ensure survival. Once those protectors trust that it is safe to separate, the Self will spontaneously emerge, and the parts can be enlisted in the healing process”.
Bessel Van Der Kolk
Resources For Therapists
IFS explained in this Slide Share:
Insight Magazine Article by Fran Ferguson: Finding Self
IFS Training in Australia:
Shamed & Shaming Parts
Toni Herbine Blank talks about her own experience of learning to love the protective parts of herself who shamed her and then also shamed others around her as a defense mechanism... and how this process led to deeper healing for her.
One of my favourite IFS teachings.
“The only way to not be afraid of someone’s suffering is if you’re not afraid of your own.”
Marcela Ot’alora G.
IFS & Trauma
IFS, Trauma & Couples
How we navigate trauma with Self-leadership
2:30 mins into this video Dick Schwartz talks about how IFS is less about catharsis and more about the Self offering a compassionate and calm presence to the traumatized and wounded parts so they can feel authentically heard and seen, for all they have carried.
IFS and Polyvagal Theory in Therapy
Polyvagal Theory in Therapy - Deb Dana speaks about IFS and Polyvagal theory and about the importance of social connection in healing and how we need to notice the moments of nervous system activation in our clients and ourselves during therapy sessions.
Matt Ball also speaks about this attunement in his theory of "dissociachotic"
Books I recommend for therapists
(can be purchased at the CSL bookstore: https://selfleadership.org/ifs-store.html )
Internal Family Systems Therapy by Richard Schwartz 2nd Edition
A valuable text and clinical resource, the book demonstrates in step-by-step detail how therapists can help individuals, couples, and families tap core resources, bring balance and harmony to their sub-personalities, and feel more integrated, confident, and alive.
The Mosaic Mind: Empowering the Tormented Selves of Child Abuse Survivors
by Richard Schwartz and Regina Goulding